My Choice / Lifeskills: The Art of Mixin’ In

Whether it’s going to a dreaded social event with your parents, going on that first date or being in a situation around people you are unfamiliar with, first impressions matter instantly, so it’s important to create the right impact and dazzle those with your fabulous charms.

Fear, shyness and anxiety can hold us back and can make a simple occasion into a complete disaster. Being in a situation that we are not used to, makes us react in such a way, because we are not in our comfort zone.

Here are a few pointers to prepare you for that occasion:

• Tell yourself that you are going to have a good time and just be yourself.
• A big warm smile does wonders to attract attention.
• Hello, how are you? How was your day? Is a good way to start to a conversation.
• Ask questions to keep the conversation flowing.
• Think of something funny that happened to you recently to arouse laughter.
• There’s nothing like a compliment to attract the person you are talking to.

By following these simple steps everyone will be queuing up to talk to you. You’ll feel happier, your confidence will grow and you’ll instantly relax and feel positive enough to talk to the next person. Not all the people you come across will be “up your street” however, try to focus on that person, as people appreciate being listened to even if the conversation is waning.

Remember, it’s not just about curbing your fears; projecting positive feelings will put others who are just as nervous as you at ease.